It doesn’t just happen to you. It happens to everyone: you meet someone, they make you feel different, it all starts with a little spark and laughter… and before you know it, you’re curled up in a fetal position, crying, wondering how you ended up there. There’s nothing crazier than love when it intersects with karma . Or the zodiac.
Because we don’t just attract what we need. Sometimes we attract what reflects exactly what we haven’t healed . We attract shadows disguised as soulmates. And astrology knows it. Your sign knows it. Your ex knows it too, but he’s busy traumatizing someone else.
Here I explain what type of toxic energy you attract based on your sign… and why you shouldn’t be surprised if you repeat the same pattern. Over and over again. Until you learn. Or get fed up.
♈ ARIES: You attract those who want to control you because they can’t handle your fire.
You are impulse, passion, movement. But for some karmic reason, you end up hooked on people who want to extinguish you. They tell you to “tone it down a bit,” they accuse you of being too much. They seek you out because your fire keeps them going… but then they don’t know what to do when the fire starts.
The result? You’re frustrated, they’re insecure, and a love story ends in smoke. 🔥 Classic toxic compatibility : Controlling Capricorn, Clingy Cancer.
♉ TAURUS: You attract those who come to break the stability you need so much.
You want calm, routine, hugs that last a lifetime. But the universe mocks you and sends you right into that unstable, emotionally chaotic, and non-committal being. Why? Because deep down, your soul wants to learn to let go. And that’s learned through pain. A lot.
You stay with someone who doesn’t stay. And you? You cling to the point of breaking. 🧨 Classic toxic compatibility : Escapist Sagittarius, indecisive Gemini.
♊ GEMINI: You attract those who make you feel guilty for being who you are.
You are free, ever-changing, a sea of ideas that never stops. But boom , along comes someone who wants to label you, control you, make you feel guilty for not “loving well.” And you, for the first time, begin to believe it’s your fault. And no. The problem isn’t you. The problem is that you fell in love with someone who only wanted a static version of you.
You end up exhausted from pretending you don’t feel so much, that you don’t think so much. 🕳 Classic toxic compatibility : Critical Virgo, paranoid Scorpio.
♋ CANCER: You attract someone who just wants to be cured, but never stays.
Your heart is a refuge, but you seem to have a neon sign that says “Broken Souls Welcome.” And of course, all the emotionally wounded, the unstable, the absent come. You give in, you mend them, and when they’re well… they leave. Because they didn’t want love. They wanted anesthesia.
And you’re left with an open chest and an empty bed. Again. 💔 Classic toxic compatibility : Detached Aquarius, impulsive Aries.
♌ LEO: You attract those who admire you… but then they compete with you
First they tell you you’re amazing. Then they tell you you’re a drama . First they put you on a pedestal. Then they make you feel guilty for shining too brightly. You just wanted to be loved the way you know how to love: with dedication, with passion, with presence. But you ended up with someone who couldn’t hold your fire.
And the worst part is, you try to turn it off so they stay. Wrong. 🥀 Classic toxic compatibility : Manipulative Scorpio, inflexible Taurus.
♍ VIRGO: You attract those who need saving (but they drag you down in the process)
You are order, structure, and restraint. And like any good earth sign, you’re always available for the excesses of others. And of course, that’s sexy for chaotic souls. But you end up losing yourself trying to save the other person. You analyze, understand, justify… and forget about yourself.
The sad thing is that when you break down, there’s no one left to help you. 💣 Classic toxic compatibility : Avoidant Pisces, passive-aggressive Libra.
♎ LIBRA: You attract those who take advantage of the fact that you don’t know how to say “enough”
You just want love. But you get into relationships where you give, give, give… and you never get the same amount back. You end up hooked on people who manipulate you with silence, threats, and jealousy. And you, to keep the peace, put up with it all. Until one day you just shut down.
And the worst part is that you still think it was your fault. 🧷 Classic toxic compatibility : Dominant Aries, emotionally mute Capricorn.
♏ SCORPIO: You attract those who are afraid to feel (but don’t tell you)
You want depth, real connection, shared darkness. But you get tangled up with people who only want the pretty version of you. Who desire you, but don’t understand you. Who provoke you, but then are scared of what you awaken. They call you “intense”… when all you wanted was the truth.
And you end up obsessed with someone who never had the courage to look you in the eye. 🕳 Classic toxic compatibility : Emotionally volatile Gemini, wounded ego Leo.
♐ SAGITTARIUS: You attract those who want to possess you (and clip your wings)
You need space, adventure, freedom to love without chains. But you fall in love with people who want to have you all the time, who make you feel bad for needing to breathe. And so, what started as a fire turns into an emotional prison.
And when you run away, they call you immature. But you know they were turning you off. 🚷 Classic toxic compatibility : Jealous Taurus, dependent Cancer.
♑ CAPRICORN: You attract people who want you to take care of them… but they never take care of you.
You are support, strength, structure. But you end up with people who idealize you as “the savior,” as the one who’s always there. And you, in order to comply, forget about yourself. You offer security, and in return, you get emptiness. And when you finally need support… there’s no one there.
And you swallow the pain like a pro. But it also kills you. ⛓ Classic toxic compatibility : Demanding Leo, emotionally unstable Pisces.
♒ AQUARIUS: You attract those who want to control you… and don’t understand why you run away
You are air, ideas, independence. And for that very reason, you attract people who need to feel they “own” the person they love. Who believe that loving is possessing. That if you don’t respond quickly, it means you don’t care. That if you don’t feel the same way, you’re “disconnected.”
And you, to avoid hurting others, disappear. Because control suffocates you more than abandonment. 📴 Classic toxic compatibility : Controlling Scorpio, demanding Virgo.
♓ PISCES: You attract those who want you to be their medicine… and then blame you
You dream, you idealize, you love with your soul. But you end up with people who don’t know what they want, and they use your love like an emotional drug. They take refuge in you, and when they feel better, they leave you. Because they never wanted love. They wanted anesthesia.
And you break down… but you still defend them. 💊 Classic toxic compatibility : Liar Gemini, selfish Aries.
💥 So, are you cursed or what?
No. But until you heal what you attract, the pattern will repeat itself. Because astrology isn’t an excuse… it’s a mirror. And if you’ve already figured out what’s destroying you, you can also decide to stop pursuing it.
So yes, maybe you attract the very people who hurt you the most. But now you know why . And the best part: now you can choose who you never open the door to again.